Personal Growth

Self-Help is the section for the workbooks by Lily Mindwell. She studied psychology and worked in counseling. She writes for people who want to do the work themselves, one exercise at a time. So these are not books to read on a train. They ask for a pen, a quiet place and a little time each day. The first workbook is Healing Your Childhood Wounds Workbook, for adults who still carry the wounds of an early home. It gathers more than a hundred exercises from cognitive behavioral therapy, parts work and grounding. First you calm the body, then you understand the pattern, and finally you reparent the child inside. The second is Love and Relationship Workbook for Couples, written for two people to do together. It draws on the Gottman method, emotionally focused therapy and attachment theory. Its twenty-five exercises help you talk, repair and reconnect. Each post here follows the same plan: the cover, who the book is for, what is inside. Then it explains how the workbook works. Moreover, the two posts link to each other, because many readers move from the first book to the second. If you want more, Lily keeps a blog on her own site. There she writes about inner healing and relationships, one topic at a time. In short, Self-Help here means a structured path rather than a theory or a pep talk. Start with the childhood workbook if the pain is old and yours alone. Otherwise, start with the couples workbook, if the problem lives between two people. Both books are on Amazon in paperback. Both work best if you go slowly.